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On Jan 29th my wife, Socorro Miller, passed away due to complications from cancer.

Socorro Miller

I can hardly write how devastated I am from losing her. After over 36 years of marriage I am certainly struggling day-to-day. I thank God for my faith and that she was the instrumental cause God used in my conversion. She was a women of prayer day in and day out despite all those years when I held her faith in little regard. In my then atheistic pride her faith was something I had to put up with. To the end she never wavered in her faith or her prayers. In those final days when she could hardly communicate – she was still making the sign of the cross.

Towards the end she was taken into a hospice to help to manage the pain. Our two children and myself basically lived in the same room at the hospice with her. This was extremely difficult for us to watch her rapid decline, but still we had to be there for her – who had always been there for us. I have often heard how compassion means to “suffer with” and this lesson was drilled into us.

By whatever confluence of events my children and I were awake and in conversation when she passed not long after 3:00 AM on a Sunday.

Socorro and I in 1980

She was first diagnosed a little over three years ago. Not long after that we made a visit to the Philippines to see her family.

Here she us with her two surviving sisters Rosario and Digna along with her brother Rudy – who died not long after this.

For myself I have some head-knowledge about the faith. An intellectual assent to the Church’s teachings. Still this has actualized some of that into a more lived experience. The Glorious Mysteries now have more depth for me. The Communion of Saints is becoming more real to me. I know she is praying for me as I pray for her.

I was super thankful that at her funeral Mass that the priest preached the faith of the Church. That our prayers for her must continue on. In the turmoil in the aftermath of this, I pray that I will live a life worthy of her.

So dear readers I ask that you pray for her and for my family.

  19 Responses to “Good and Faithful Servant”

  1. Praying for you..

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss. Many prayers for you and your family.

  3. My God bring peace to your family and to you as you grieve, and draw your wife’s soul to rest in Him. Condolences on your loss!

  4. A beautiful tribute to your wife. God bless you and your family.

  5. Jeff, I continue to pray for your peace and hers.

  6. I’m sorry for your loss, I just said a hail mary for her and your family. Your blog has been part of the growth of my faith, so your wife influenced my life as well and as a result that of my family.

  7. A beautiful reflection. We’re still praying for all of you.

  8. I will be praying for you and your family.

  9. Very sorry to hear this. Praying…

  10. I will pray for your loss and our Lord’s blessing for your family.

  11. I am sorry for your loss. May God continue to bless you.

  12. My Deepest Sympathy go out to you, your family and your many friends Jeff.

    At this time, believe “IT” or not… even sinner vic is stuck for words.

    Long story short and for what “IT” is worth, I still believe that because of you, GOD (Good Old Dad) will continue to take good care of us (usual sinners) until Eternity.

    Keep praying for all of us Jeff cause whether we admit “IT” or not, God sent YA our way and we all still need each other’s help.

    Again “I” say God Bless you and all your loved ones.

  13. May God comfort you, Jeff. I pray for you, Socorro’s soul, and Michael’s conversion in my daily prayers.

  14. Jeff, your reflection about your love for Soccorro and her faith in God is very real and very moving. You have challenged my evening in a very positive way. I will celebrate a mass for her tomorrow morning.

    Fr. Chris

  15. Praying for you and your family, Jeff. I a so sorry for your loss. May she rest in the Peace of Christ until you see her again.

  16. Praying for you and your family, Jeff. I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in the Peace of Christ until you see her again.

  17. A Divine Mercy Chaplet will be offered for the repose of your beloved wife and for you as you grieve such a loss. She sounds like a great source of inspiration. I am so sorry for your loss.

  18. I’m so sorry. You have my prayers and condolences.

  19. Moving tribute Jeff, and I was especially struck by your mention of how the Glorious Mysteries have more depth. Will say a prayer for you and your wife.

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