The diocese of Portland (Maine) has published a code of ethics
Some parts of it struck me, especially how sad that these items must be spelled out.
8. Discussing one’s own sexual orientation, preferences or activities with minors or vulnerable adults is prohibited. Discussing celibacy in the context of the priestly or religious life is, however, appropriate.
You can see how effective the homosexual lobby has been when we now adopt their language such as sexual orientation.
3. Appropriate affection between Diocesan personnel and minors is often important for a child’s development and is a positive part of Church life and ministry. The following forms of affection are regarded as appropriate examples for most Church sponsored and affiliated programs:
§ Normal Hugs.
§ Side, or shoulder to shoulder hugs.
§ Pats on the shoulder or back.
§ “High-fives” and hand slapping.
§ Verbal praise.
§ Touching hands, faces, shoulders and arms of minors.
§ Holding hands while walking with small children.
§ Sitting beside small children.
§ Kneeling or bending down for hugs with small children.
§ Holding hands during prayer.
§ Pats on the head when culturally appropriate. (For example, this gesture should typically be avoided in some Asian or Muslim communities.)
4. The following are examples of contact that are
not to be used in Church sponsored and affiliated programs:
§ Inappropriate or lengthy hugs or embraces.
§ Kisses on the mouth.
§ Holding minors, above the approximate age of 5, on one’s lap. Note: The holding of minors in one’s lap should only be done in the context of consoling an obviously distressed child.
§ Touching buttocks, genital areas, or girl’s chests.
§ Showing physical displays of affection in isolated areas of the premises such as bedrooms, closets, staff only areas, or other private rooms.
§ Sleeping in bed with a minor.
§ Touching knees or legs of minors, as a show of affection.
§ Wrestling with minors, except for legitimate sports coaching, in which case another adult should be present.
§ Tickling minors.
§ Piggyback rides.
§ Any type of massage given by minor to adult.
§ Any type of massage given by adult to minor.
§ Any display of unwanted affection.
§ Compliments that relate to sexual attractiveness or sexual development.